is it too late to weigh in?
low key for birthday.
casual dinner out if she wants for anniversary, maybe. dunno. you want to acknowledge that she's still there, so i'd say something commensurate with the level of effort you deem she's put in, and still respectful if this makes any sense at all?

I think there's a delicate balance between making her work for it and being so aloof that she gives up out of hopelessness and despair.

make sense?

or did I just add more confusion?

remember: I am divorced,lol I did not save my marriage.

That's my ongoing caveat.

happy father's day !!! xoxoxo

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver