Another day has passed without incident or any R conversation. Which is actually VERY frustrating.
She got back from her trip to see her parents early evening yesterday, and has spoken with me very little since - either yesterday or today. I have no idea what is going on in her head but she seems to be in no rush to have the conversation. I think she has now cancelled her planned IC session in 2 days and instead has made a couple of appointments (on Weds and Fri) to see houses in the nearby town where I know she'd like to move to.
I know I am supposed to just wait for her to initiate, but now it seems she is just toying with me, realising she is in control and is just inflicting more pain by doing everything in her own time. I have no idea when she plans to engage with me, but I feel like I am being walked all over. All the while she is cake eating (see incident with underwear noted above), and I'm having to act all normal in the house around the kids. This has been going on for 8 weeks and all because she 'couldn't make up her mind'. I know she has now made up her mind, but is just not telling me (but is telling everyone else), and I've just about had enough.
I am trying to be patient, and do all the right things, but she is now pushing it to the point of being totally disrespectful and twisting the knife in further. I REALLY want to ask her what she is thinking and at least understand what her plan is - we would have so much to discuss and not much time as the kids will be off school in not much more than a couple of weeks.
So question - can I go ahead and raise it with her tomorrow morning? It would be exactly 2 weeks since we last discussed, and before that it was 2 weeks prior that - so basically 2 conversations in a month. Neither of which were in any way conclusive and both left it that she would come back to me when she was ready to discuss further. Well I would like to regain some control in this situation, and as much as LRT and detaching is helpful for me and my personal development, it is not having much of an effect on her.
Thoughts?
_______________________________________________ M47 W50 T-21 yrs M-19 Yrs S17 S15 D12 Found out about A 04/12/18 BD 04/15/18 Admitted A, name of AP and separate rooms 04/29/18 Told kids 07/22/18
