I feel I need to find this confidence but think I will only get it through being noticed by other woman-
Have you considered IC? Confidence and self worth should come from inside, not outside. The fact that you look externally to gain that means you aren't differentiated. I'd highly encourage you to seek IC to discover why you have this need.
See in my mind you have it backwards. Being noticed by women doesn't produce confidence. Confidence produces being noticed by women.
Just something to think about.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018