Can I really do this #3

[SteveLW]

First, you both will get screwed in D. Especially now that she is throwing the L word away. The only one that gets ahead in D are the Ls.

You did pretty well, except you still said too much. Remember:
Listen. Validate. No need to over explain, or convince, or try to appease her.

Read the validation thread. Stick to the script. It sounds like you are detaching pretty well though. For her to say you are "unphased" shows that. So when she brings up these conversations remember to say as little as you possibly can, validate her feelings, and end the conversation. As in YOU be the one to end it.

JS, I feel that you have a good chance at R if you continue to detach and start validating in these conversations. Remember, mysterious is good!