The beginning of a long and painful journey

[40free]

"I look better than I have looked in years and feel just being noticed will give me more of a boost to get me back to who I used to be.
Do you still I should avoid the bar scene?"

I hear you Raw. I've done exactly the same thing - looked after myself, gotten fitter than I've ever been, new clothes, looking sharp. That's for me, to feel good about myself. I've really not been 'out out' like you have, just been keeping busy with friends and doing sport for my GAL. Yes, I had one nice mini-encounter (yesterday actually) which boosted my confidence and gave me a feeling that when the time comes, I'll be able to get out there and I'm not past it yet. But it really isn't the time to be tempted to look for that kind of engagement or even revenge in that way.

If things don't work out with you and your W (and I assume you still really want them to), you'll be back in play in no time I'm sure. Hopefully I'll be the same if the time comes. Until then, yes, if temptation is a problem for you, stay away from the bars or places where you can get yourself in situations that you'll regret later. If you end up in a R discussion with W, you can then be honest with her if the question comes up about your own fidelity. You'll lose the moral high ground fast if all of sudden you are no better than she is. Think about that for a while, because I'm sure that's not what you want.

Anyway, just my thoughts and the way I'm playing it. See how you go and stay focused on you and the kids. It will pay dividends, with or without her.