Thanks Steve85. You're right of course. Today I'm not feeling quite so angry and ready to push the button as I was yesterday. I'm still pretty sure that's how it's going to go anyway(i.e. she's going to tell me she's want to S or D), but having reflected and slept on it, I'm back to being more inclined to following the validation guidance and just go with it without making a scene.
She really doesn't deserve for me to treat her with so much respect and understanding, but I get that this is simply keeping my options open for now (you're right - it's not a race), and once its done, I will focus on me, the kids and all the things that are in my control and we'll see where that leads to. I still don't think I could ever take her back even if she suggested it, but maybe my feelings will change in time, if she also changes, and if she ever shows any kind of remorse for how she has treated me - something which she says she just doesn't feel. What a nice woman.
More tomorrow no doubt..
_______________________________________________ M47 W50 T-21 yrs M-19 Yrs S17 S15 D12 Found out about A 04/12/18 BD 04/15/18 Admitted A, name of AP and separate rooms 04/29/18 Told kids 07/22/18
