I will agree, Clyde, you put yourself back in this situation. You took her back very easily after what you went through. So now, yes, you do have to work with the situation you are currently in.
My advice to you: Do not treat her as a wife, and do not expect her to treat you as a husband. That means, no touching her at all (the foot rubs, seriously have to go) let her tease you with her yoga stuff. I cannot imagine you find anything attractive about her right now. She has made herself quite ugly. A little pair of yoga booty shorts shouldn't wash away that ugliness.
Do not hand her a dime. Do not make her a meal. Take nothing form her and give her nothing.
You are in danger. She is not above doing anything she needs to to get what she wants. You have experienced that first hand.
I understand your predicament with the house. I also live in a very very expensive area of this country. But, you need to divorce her to protect yourself. Do it legally the right way before she takes anymore from you or tries to pull another RO on you.
I feel for you. You seem like a loving father and a loving husband who was just trying to do right by his family. She is just awful.
