Look her dead in the eye and tell her, "I will not agree to an in-house separation. If you want out of the M then you can get your things and leave". Think you can handle it?
That is 100 percent pure golden info! I believe if I had done this I'd been where I am now months ago.
Me:37 W:42 T:14 yrs M:10.5 yrs D:7 D:5 BD: 1/6/18 OM Discovered: 1/29/18 WW moved out 5/12/18
