The beginning of a long and painful journey

[Rawpain]

Could this OM be her prefect solemate?
Could he be perfect for her?
Have no flaws?

I feel like not only am I facing her WW mentality but also he is at least 10 years older and has more life experience and Is more mature..
OM has lost his W to an A and I have heard people say that divorced H make better partners second time around after WW.
He does have a higher paying job and has the bigger expensive car.
Her friends from th gym are all at least 10 years older than her and I feel she was comparing our M to theres.
They all had nice cars and new gym clothes every week. I feel we would of got there in time but she just wanted to jump to that point ... and now she has. I dont feel I can compete.

It already feels like I am now in the DBing process just for me.
I fear she has everything that she has wanted over the last two years since she got these new friends and saw there lifestyles and even though I can get myself straight-eventually and get me back on track that ,
she will not be willing to take steps back in her lifestyle now.
Not for me.
Feels hopeless!