My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance PART 2

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Hey all, thanks for the posts, I just read them all. Some of what you're saying is actually converging with the conclusions I drew this week.

I'm thinking I'm going to "even us up" on the remaining funds in our joint account. She has been excessively spendy, and I'm going to rectify that. She knows how this works through her past (her father's business, and that neither her nor I tolerate getting screwed over). So she spent a few grand on clothes, shoes, etc since BD and I'm going to settle that up.

Those funds, along with my next check, are going into an account in only my name. She has been whining to me throughout this process about money bc she works for cash. Even though she makes $3,200 or so a month in unreported income, she can't get financing bc it's all under the table. Boohoo, not my problem.

I am going to tell her it is time for her to move out of the house. I don't want to live with and support an adulterous person. I can't make her move, but I'm tired of this. Her mom told me that if her husband was talking to her like I was talking to my WW, that she would have thrown his clothes out the next day. Well, I wanted to ask her what she'd do if he was having an affair...

That's the bad thing, I was not a great person before the BD and PA. I have plenty of bad, negative habits that weakened our relationship. So I'm a bit apprehensive about taking the tougher approach. I have come a long ways on taking care of my garbage attitudes and behaviors, as well as setting up support networks and checks for falling back into old habits.

I just don't see the point anymore of being there for her in any way. It's not doing me any good. I'm not sure when I'm going to do this, but in the next week or 2 is what I'm thinking. She's not home much anyways. I also am thinking about bringing her parents up to speed on this beforehand bc they are safe, supportive people.

I stayed away from this place the last few days bc of some new info on my situation. I'm going to list it out below. I was back to being a bit blue for a couple days, and wasn't sleeping much. WW is super spendy and got a new phone that she didn't need, left her old one laying around. I took a gander. So here's what was keeping me up:
-she googled what her dreams meant, here were the dreams:
-what does dream of sliding and falling down hills mean
-what does car accident dream mean
-what do cheating dreams mean
-sleep deprivation (not a dream, but she searched it)
-does being pregnant give you weird dreams
-18 days late, spotting
-21 days late, 3 weeks late
-swollen around opening of vagina
-large pink ball at opening of vagina
-text message about OBGYN appt, not sure if she actually went
-her sister is covering up and not telling her folks about anything
-OM has a group pic on FB of them on a party bus, WW is hiding but visible
-WW is around heavy drinkers and drug users now with OM plus one of her dumb friends
-WW hung at our neighborhood pool w/ some druggie looking idiot girl.

And before I get the "Don't snoop/ask questions about things you can't handle", I can handle this and I'd rather know than not know. Obviously this is a little crazy, hopefully somebody reads this and thinks "Wow, at least my situation isn't the F'ed up".

PS Mom if you read this don't kill me.