Thanks kml. Reading back my post I think I just had one of my down days yesterday. I suppose using this board to vent as I did is the best place for it, and I do appreciate yours and everyone's guidance when I slip up like that. I'm actually normally pretty controlled and disciplined in front her, and really haven't been overtly anything other than pleasant and upbeat with her since maybe 2 weeks post BD. But yes, you are right. Keep emotions out of it, keep upbeat.
And your anecdote about revenge not being worth it is spot on. I'll will be firm in discussions, but not let my emotions interfere. We're not at that stage yet, but will make sure I have your story in my mind if/when we do get there.
Nothing too much new to report today. It was S17's birthday today. We had a good day visiting a school he's interested in going to. And then celebrated as a family when we got back. I do suspect W went off to see OM in our absence, but whatever. I'm not letting it affect me.
She's off to her parents tomorrow morning early. Back on Sunday. I'm keeping myself busy parenting, working and probably reading up on validation threads preparing myself for the conversation.
Father's Day here on Sunday - I'm taking the kids out for lunch. Will definitely make the most of our time together. Actually really looking forward to that, and also the time without W. Being away from her does relieve the internal tension and takes the pressure off what is really quite a touch living situation. Onwards and upwards...
_______________________________________________ M47 W50 T-21 yrs M-19 Yrs S17 S15 D12 Found out about A 04/12/18 BD 04/15/18 Admitted A, name of AP and separate rooms 04/29/18 Told kids 07/22/18
