I do believe that my wife has a love language other then Physical touch. Mine is purely physical touch. But how do you get a person who can not speak the language of physical touch to become very good at it. I personally believe that physical touch is the HARDEST love langauge to learn if it is not your primary language. Now about the books trying to tell women how to make their guys lower desire, well I have read some of the book covers, and these books are telling the women that they can change their man, so that he meets their needs. How? By REIGNING in his horrible sex drive, and getting him to enjoy communication, affection, romance, all of the LD traits. It seems very clear the intent is to lower his sex frequency to something more that the women can handle and to increase all of the things that SHE needs.
Personally, I am all for giving her what she needs, but the affection and sex has to become a whole lot more closer to MY needs in order for it to work in the long run. Her needs do nothing for me.
