Quote: What exactly can I do differently and still not feel this overwhelming sexual desire for him (and, consequently, not feel like that is lacking in our M)? Is changing myself also making a decision to not think about sex? Or just not initiate...? If so, I've tried that before and it doesn't really work. I dunno, I'm confused. (I'm sure I sound that way, too!)
Join the club. I have to admit, in the past week I have thought comparatively little about sex. Note that I'm not saying I'm LD on the subject, but this is a really interesting thing... I no longer feel "needy" on the subject. First of all, I've been WAY preoccupied with other things, like reading and digesting what some here have called a "difficult read". Yes, it is challenging. Secondly, as Dave alluded to earlier, I'm measuring "success" at this point on an entirely different scale. It's no longer even really ABOUT sex, although that's going to be a big part of it for sure, but there's so much else mixed in with it as well that I find I think less about it. I would NEVER have expected that...
