Quote: By choosing to 'do' nothing, your H DID make a choice. (A seriously crappy choice, if you ask me, but a choice nonetheless).
Kinda reminds me of the old Rush song..."If you choose not to decide you still have made a choice."
Quote: You make decisions to honor yourself first, as the person you are in the marriage system. The partner at that point has a choice of how to act or react.
Granted I haven't read PM in awhile and just re-ordered it; however, I'm still struggling with seeing just what kinds of changes I can make TO myself, FOR myself, in relation to having a passionate sexual relatinoship with my husband. What exactly can I do differently and still not feel this overwhelming sexual desire for him (and, consequently, not feel like that is lacking in our M)? Is changing myself also making a decision to not think about sex? Or just not initiate...? If so, I've tried that before and it doesn't really work. I dunno, I'm confused. (I'm sure I sound that way, too!)
