And I've thought about the forgiveness aspect of this whole sitch long and hard. And if she truly showed remorse, accepted accountability, and went through the necessary steps of getting professional help, I know I can forgive her and work towards R. In a way, I feel like I already have. I know that a lot of what she is going through is due to unsesolved childhood issues. Whether or not she makes the positive changes she needs to, I forgive her for what she has done. I have to forgive her, because if I don't it's just negativity that I'm going to have to carry around for the rest of my life. And I truly do love her. Damn near unconditionally. I'm not sure there is anything she could ever do that would make me stop loving her. Don't get me wrong, there are many things she could do that would make me never want to be in a R with her again. But those are two separate things IMO...
MTB, you just put my thoughts into words. This is beautifully written, and i agree with it, not only for your sitch but mine as well. I just dont think my wife is WW, WAW or MLC. I think its deeper than that for her.
Take the weekend, chill, get outside and really clear your head. Meditate.
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
