Can I really do this #3

[SteveLW]

"This detaching in a in-house separation is very difficult. "

I am becoming a broken record on this topic since I have addressed it multiple times in the last 2 days. Everyone thinks their sitch is tougher.

If it is an inhouse S then the LBS says things like "this is so hard, to be this physically close. It would be so much easier if I didn't have to see her all the time."

If it is a true separation the LBS says things like "this is so hard, I have no opportunity to show her my GAL, 180s, detachment, and being the spouse only a fool would leave. It would be so much easier if we could see each other more often."

And here is the thing, both are right! There are advantages and disadvantages to both. The key is to focus on the positives of your sitch. TO always be DBing, and whatever opportunities you have to use those to be the best, lovingly detached, getting a life, 180ing LBS that you can be!

And don't delude yourself into thinking it is her physical beauty. Guys that are in love with their less than ideal looking wives still struggle with this. Most guys that aren't attracted to their wives do not react so strongly to BD. They just shrug and move on.