Change cannot happen in every realtionship or the divorce rate would not be so high if true change occurred. There has to be a desire to make the change in the first place, a willingness to look and do things differently, the attempt to help your spouse with whatever the problems are. If those things that have been mentioned do not exist in your realtionship, you can try until doomsday, but life will pass you by in that relationship.
If you have found something that is working for you, and you are seeing changes in your relationship with your spouse, my contention is that your spouse is willing to work with you, however grudgingly or willingly, to reform the relationship. You are very lucky as this willnot happen in all instances.
