Dave, just to state where my question came from, consider the following:
Quote: When someone attempts to be more of a self in a relationship system, the absolutely predictable response from important others is, "You are wrong; change back; if you don't, these are the consequences!" In fact, if such responses do not occur, one's efforts to define more of a self are probably inconsequential - Murray Bowen, as quoted by Schnarch
I'm just wondering, because things seem to be coming pretty easily for you. That's not necessarily a cause for concern, but it could be. There's a possibility that you and your W are operating already on a MUCH higher level of differentiation than are me and my W, and if that's the case, then my question was out of line and I withdraw it...
