Being detached doesn't mean you will tolerate betrail in your own house.
Steve, you are right, I am at a critical point. I'm reaching the end of my patience. I'm beginning to feel like to fool that hung on too long.
What did I expect when I initiated? I didn't expect anything other than the common courtesy of an honest answer. Based on her recent mood I thought she would be into it. I expected nothing.
As for being unfulfilled? I wouldn't say that. I've seen some movement. I got to say and was listened to for the first time in months. If this expedites her exit. So be it. I can say I don't regret having this R talk. It put her in her feminine energy. Last night we went to dinner and she seemed better than ever.
I'm kind of done tippy-toeing around her feelings while suppressing my own.
She is leaving to fish my daughter out of college today. Hopefully, she will have some time to reflect.
Me? I'm going to enjoy myself.
Actually detached does mean that. It means what she does and says no longer affects you. Also, while you see the PW as a betrayal, there is a long way from changing an email PW and having sex with OM in the marital bed. What you are calling betrayal is really just a lack of transparency, not betrayal.
Your last post was exactly what I was getting at. Detachment is not something that merely do. It is something we live. Yes we can fake it until we make it, but we haven't made it until we no longer even have to try. It just becomes natural.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
