What else would u suggest if i dont stand my ground even now?
I got the impression she was upset b/c you did not contest the D. Am I wrong?
Here's the thing, Nutcracker. I don't see how you can have it both ways........standing your ground (of no contact? Exactly what part do you mean?) and pursuing her with a contact message, asking her not to go through with the D. I"ve asked you to tell me what you really want to say to her in this message. You told me want to say something that helps you to move on..........and you have already said it. You said it in your last conversation.
Now, if you want to call, text, email.....or whatever, as a last ditch effort to stop the D, then we can try to compose some type of dialog. But you have to tell me specifically what you mean by standing your ground. What part would feel like a compromise? Would asking her not to go through with the D feel like a compromise?
Again,you have to tell me what you want to relay to your W. I can't just pull something out of the air when I don't know what you want.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
