I saw her wish list about what she'd like do with the kids, the house, our assets and our business, as well as her concerns about me being difficult in mediation. Too right I'll be difficult. She deserves nothing less.
As for this - don't. Mediation and splitting assets is all just business (even when it only involves personal assets.) It is NOT the place to bring your emotions about the divorce (IF one is happening) nor the place to get revenge.
Hard as it is you need to separate your emotions from the business aspect of this. By all means fight for your rights. Don't be a pushover. But nobody really wins when assets are split and it's not the place, as I said, for emotions. If you do mediation you should have your own outside lawyer as well who can advise you on what's fair and what a judge would be likely to grant you in court. Yours sounds a bit more complicated than the average divorce because you have a business but there are guidelines for most things. Be prepared to negotiate some things away so ask for a bit more than you expect to get but like I said - EMOTIONS OUT.
My mediation went fairly smoothly because I was able to do this . My friend who wanted to "get" her husband for his affair spent years going back to court and in the end I don't think she gained anything extra but lawyer fees. She just kept trying to get revenge on her ex. Don't be that guy.
