Advice for newcomer pre- bomb drop.

[rexgm]

Lately, like i said, i've been having that feeling again that something was up. So I started snooping again and found an odd phone number with a bunch of texts. Used spokeo and was able to find out it was a cell number from a guy at her work. Now, this is an older guy, that I couldn't see her being into, but i confronted anyway. I asked her whose number it was, and she told me it was her friend "Tammy". I told her i knew whose phone it wasn't Tammy's and she then proceeded to tell me that this guy had loaned phone to Tammy because she was getting ready to file for divorce from her husband and was using the phone to send evidence to the attny since her husband monitored her phone usage.

Trust your gut, there is a reason why everyone has those gut feelings, because they are usually right. If you really want to find out, just ask for the password to the cell account. It is your acct also so there is no reason why you shouldn't have the password. She is not able to change those records so if she is reluctant then that should tell you everything.

Tried to have a heart to heart with wife. Talked about many things including sex life. Said she was just in a spot where she didn't desire it. When we did it, she said it was good but just was experiencing low desire.

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but she just doesnt desire sex with you. Most likely the sex you are getting now is good, but for her it is a obligation which is never good.
She is going to try and keep you confused, because that will allow her to keep on doing what she is doing. I wouldn't believe anything she says and only half of what she does. You know she has desire, because you have seen it on camera, if she desired you, then when you got home she would of attacked you and taken you to the bedroom. But exactly the opposite happened, headache/not feeling well .etc.

She is also pobably upset because she wasnt able to put a plan in place to BD you.

You need to ask yourself, if this was a new gf would you put up with this behavior. I know I wouldnt, but that is something you have to decide for yourself. She has already said MC didnt work, so no need for you to bring it up. I would be proactive and BD her. Talk to a lawyer and get prepared, it is coming either from her or preferable from you with preparedness. The reason for the proactive BD is to hopefully scare her out of her current mindset. Problem is you cant look at it like that because if you dont mean it they will know it and it will do you no good. Do you want to put up with this disrespectful behavior?
It is probably safe to say she has already cheated on you. If she hasnt she was definately planning it.

I would start working on yourself. Hit the gym, hangout with friends. Dont invite her to any of it. The more you try to please her the more you will push her away. Do things because you want to do them, not because you think it will make her happy.