The process I am seeing here is like what Michelle suggests. Change yourself, make yourself desireable. Make yourself happier. But is still comes down to the LD spouse. HD's can not change them. But for the marriage to work, it is a REQUIREMENT for the LD spouse to change. SO the Key piece to the puzzle is again, the LD spouse. If they are agreeable to change, then things might work out, but if they are not agreeable to change, the HD has only 2 options, accept a crappy marriage, or move on. So the HD has two choices and they both suck!
