You know he gets a pay off with his nastiness. I know you know this. You can do the boundaries and consequences thing. Don't forget they are your best ally besides talking to the rights friends - and of course a bit of self healing (those soaks in the bath etc).
I will check in more fully soon.
Take care!!
Surfer.
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