SD: ...trying to see where I can grow to be more like the person W would find more desirable
ALERT, ALERT.....THINKING ERROR
Seriously man, I was right there with you a few weeks ago and thought that this idea is what everyone meant by "change" and "growth".
Listen, it's not about becoming more desirable to her...it's about you becoming more desirable to you, then using the strength to stand up for your values and not give a poop about what she is or isn't doing. Trust me man...I'm seeing it happen. (here comes another metaphor) Right now it looks like pebbles and sand being dislodged from a big stone wall as I shake the earth...the wall isn't moving but it's slowly starting to crumble. You can't slam yourself into the wall to make it fall...it hurts you and annoys the wall. You can't make yourself look like a rock and hope the wall finds a hole for you to fit in (by making yourself more desirable). You have to become the Hulk and shake the earth underneath the wall...repeatedly slam your fist into the ground in front of it. You aren't hitting the wall but you are making the wall question what it's vulnerabilities are.
Now that's some dang good metaphorin'
-Dave (the hulk)
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
