Okay, so let me start by saying that if you are using a DB coach to guide you through this process, then you might feel confused by some of the advice concerning the wayward wife (WW). As of yet, MWD does not use that term in her books. She does identify the WW apart from the WAW. Therefore, her basic advice is given for all situations (I hope I said that correctly).
Whenever there is a WW involved, I do believe it takes a tougher love than may be interpetated or communicated in the book/coaching. This is MWD's board, and I am not trying to take it over or disrespect her in any way. I give this board a lot of credit for guiding me back into my M eleven years ago. I was the wayward wife, and I know that mindset and understand how they got to the wayward stage........which is strangely very similar to each other. They even say much of the same things, as if reading the same script. Anyway, I am here to pass forward any help I can be to newcomers. I especially focus on the H's who have a WW, since I have devoted a lot of time in learning more about this subject.
You are welcome to read my first thread that explains the WW. Here's the link:
BTW, what are the ages of you and your W? What about the ages of your kids?
Is your W the oldest child in her family? Do you know if she ever received any type of counseling for her abandonment issues? Her grandfather and aunt......were they her mother's father and sister?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
