"Nice of her to tell them before me...." WWs always are moving toward D, at least in their head. So her "not telling you" was her "telling you". You may not have wanted to believe it because, well, you didn't want to believe it.

You keep mentioning "my channels". Stop keeping tabs on her. Shut those channels down. You are not detaching nor LRT if you are keeping tabs on what she is doing and why she is doing it.

What else can I being doing between now and then? I plan to speak to my L again, but anything else?

How should I be with her before and after she gets back from her trip?

If you are LRT then you already know the answers to these questions.

You do not initiate contact. When she initiates you stick to business about the kids. If she expresses feeling validate them. (Read the validation thread.) Otherwise you are silent. When around her you are happy, upbeat, pleased. There is a spring in your step, a smile on your face, and a sparkle in your eye. Even if you don't feel it. Fake it until you make it.

This post shows you are far from detached, let alone practicing LRT.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018