Corri - You're right, you *have* worked your ass off. And I apologize if my not-well-thought-out post was inflammatory. Sometimes (especially in my mood today) certain little phrases set me off and it wasn't fair for me to lash out.
As Tim mentioned above, you have done amazing work and are to be commended as an LD spouse who is doing her part to try to improve the R. I suppose I'm a little jealous, too. What I wouldn't GIVE to stumble upon my hubby posting here asking for advice!