Sorry to hear about another family torn apart by the actions of a WW. I have some threads about the mindset and behavior of the WW, if you care to read them. This is the link to the first thread:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2545554#Post2545554

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!