She doesnt though. She admits in her mid life crises section that she has never had to live with someone like that. But still offers hope.
JujuB,
A couple of years ago, I looked into Michele Weiner-Davis' background. He parents divorced when she was young. She said it seemed to come out of nowhere. Her parents seemed to be happy and there was no fighting or open hostility. For whatever reason, her mother wanted a divorce.
Because of her childhood experience Michele wanted to do what she could to save marriages. She obviously knows the pain of the children who have to go through divorce. I think her heart is in the right place. I do think the advice provided by the DB book is probably better applied very early in the process of a marital decline.
I know you're in a difficult place emotionally. My own anger waxes and wanes. I hate that my sons' lives were disrupted by something so senseless. The guy my wife hooked up with is, by almost any definition, a complete loser. And, he's never going to leave his wife. Yet my sons have to pay the price.
Hang in there; everything seems to take longer than we'd like.
