Quote: I think what my H has difficulty doing with me, however, is expressing when he DOES want it to lead to sex.
Corri, without knowing him except through your posts, I would agree with that statement, and even offer an explanation - he's afraid of rejection. Yes, that is HIS issue, and it's due (I now see) to his level of differentiation (or lack thereof). He is fused - his whole concept of self goes into that bid for intimacy, and rejecting IT is rejecting HIM (in his mind). But you know that...
Quote: I think my H is feeling anxious (about other things), and when he gets anxious, he looks to me to comfort him.
Again, a differentiation/fusion issue.
Quote: And if I say no to "I want sex," that is not a rejection of him, but of the process.
Corri, I know you have gone over this with him... but it sounds like he still doesn't understand that, or trust in it. Is HE reading PM with you? Does he show any interest in it?
