So sorry to hear your news, Chris. You have a wayward W, and if you have not read the threads about the WW mindset, I think it might be to your advantage to do so. I don't know if she has issues from her past, but she definitely has a whopper now! But here's the thing I hope you'll remember. Waywardness is not forced on anyone. It comes her own free will, and that's how it will change. So, don't feel sorry for her or think she can't help it, or believe what she says.
I explain in my threads how waywardness begins in the heart that holds unresolved resentment. Eventually, feelings of disrespect and rebellion follow. Selfishness takes over and her mindset changes from the girl you M to this stranger that is lying and staying out partying.....and is planing to move in with a 26 yr old guy.
You have to stand firm and learn how to apply tough love with waywards. You cannot nice her back, by being this sweet, nice guy she M. You can't friend her back by being her BFF. You can't play happy family and get her back. However, it is possible to save your M. I hope you'll read the WW threads.
In the meantime, cut contact and financial support.....except where kids are concerned. Don't discuss the MR with her.
I encourage you to check with a lawyer to see if you can keep the kids out of that guy's house, since the adults are not M. It doesn't hurt to check.
Find the 37 rules and follow what is pertinent to your situation.
You will get a lot of help here, if you'll stick with us. Don't jump off and do something before checking here, first.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Said no sex yet, says she prolly moving in. After a week. Wtf she's crazy. If Jenifer Aniston wanted to f everyday I wouldn't let her move in after a week
Has been pretty much the worst day of my life. I have had to buy nutrition drinks to try and stay healthy. I can't eat and am throwing up all day. Trying to work is a bitxx. I'm going to have to get angry. I was such a fool. About 4 weeks ago I got up to go pick up kids. That day we met in Wal mart parking lot. We got kids loaded and we were talking and a loud truck pulled in behind her, she snatched her head to look. I knew it then, but I talked myself into not believing it. She was such a liar. She wanted to keep me hanging on to her until she seen if it was going to work out with OM.
By accident today I found out. A mutual friend of ours a girl, I considered rooming with. She a drunk so I changed my mind about it. I was telling her today and she got furious. That's when she said I like your X's new guy, cause she was mad. Come to find out she didn't even know. She was just being mean.
But I txt X "well today's the day I was told about your boyfriend". She replied "what boyfriend" I said it don't matter Then she called and told me
Said how much she likes him, and she's never felt that way about anyone la la la. Same [censored]+ I was told 12 yrs ago.
Definitely the worst day of my life, but hey I knew it was coming. I tried to prepare, but it didn't help at all. I can't beleive she would do this to me.
Guess Ill prolly just give up on her. I can't sit watch wait for months and months I'll go super crazy. I just have to give up. I'll try and continue posting some. Getting on here reading all this is not helping me move on at all.
Man was u right. I beleive that too. They hang on to a branch until they find another one to jump to. I figure out guys name then number I'll know how long it's been going on. Verizon sent me 3 letters in the mail about phone. Someone tried to do something with account. She didn't want me going back to bill. Gotcha
