I have thought a lot about this "my issue" vs. "his issue" stuff. I always feel a bit uneasy when this stuff comes up. I suppose, deep dowm, it is just that simple and that we are all responsible for our own stuff, even if we are not "self sufficient." Your hubby needs to take charge of himself and decide, "Is this relationship important enough to me that I suffer sexually for a while...maybe forever??" or "Are my needs legitimate and are they worth stepping out of my safety-zone and ending my marriage." Pretty tall order...and I am bellied-up to the bar right now, trying to make the same choice.
