So my answer is what do you think detaching is? Many people think it means ignoring your W, or going "dark" on her. That is not detachment. Read the detachment thread.
To detach you simply are present. Pleased. Upbeat in her presence. No matter what she says or does. You do not react positively or negatively to anything she says or does. You remain present. Pleased. Upbeat.
You do not ignore her. You don't start conversations, but when she initiates conversation you respond in a present, upbeat, and pleased and confident way. You validate he feelings (read the validation thread).
Now, with that definition of detachment, what part of that can't be done in the presence of mutual friends and family?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
