So sorry to hear your news, Chris. You have a wayward W, and if you have not read the threads about the WW mindset, I think it might be to your advantage to do so. I don't know if she has issues from her past, but she definitely has a whopper now! But here's the thing I hope you'll remember. Waywardness is not forced on anyone. It comes her own free will, and that's how it will change. So, don't feel sorry for her or think she can't help it, or believe what she says.

I explain in my threads how waywardness begins in the heart that holds unresolved resentment. Eventually, feelings of disrespect and rebellion follow. Selfishness takes over and her mindset changes from the girl you M to this stranger that is lying and staying out partying.....and is planing to move in with a 26 yr old guy.

You have to stand firm and learn how to apply tough love with waywards. You cannot nice her back, by being this sweet, nice guy she M. You can't friend her back by being her BFF. You can't play happy family and get her back. However, it is possible to save your M. I hope you'll read the WW threads.

In the meantime, cut contact and financial support.....except where kids are concerned. Don't discuss the MR with her.

I encourage you to check with a lawyer to see if you can keep the kids out of that guy's house, since the adults are not M. It doesn't hurt to check.

Find the 37 rules and follow what is pertinent to your situation.

You will get a lot of help here, if you'll stick with us. Don't jump off and do something before checking here, first.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!