Meanwhile 12 Years Later

[DonH]

Great points and I actually agree - but it's about so much more than physical boxes - with this current girl and with the others. I've said before, I'm picky and I just don't settle. That said, I am not into red heads at all yet dated two in the last couple years. The current girl's lack of box checking goes way beyond the physical. I don't want to sound like a snob but those I usually am attracted to and fit with are educated, good jobs, solid income. Now it's not ONLY THOSE things that attract me - at least I don't think it is. Instead, it's the type of people that achieve those things. It's their drive, motivation, morals, ethics, lack of drama, etc. That's the things I want.

Among the last girls I've dated - Data scientist for a huge USA retailer, six figures, masters degree; Head buyer for a national retail chain, again six figures, masters. School teacher with a doctorate. Not all of them are in this category but they often possess what I fit with. The current girl is not at all like this.

Now that said, I also agree that I may be limiting with looks early on. Yet, once I get to know them, the looks matter much less. Clearly if this was OLD, I highly doubt I'd have chosen the current girl. Perhaps that's yet another problem with OLD - it's so looks driven.

But with current girl, it's not only looks. It's my hunches about the other stuff. In this case, I have known her aunt and her parents before getting to know her and am figuring, well if she is like them, we'll be a good fit. Yet as I look at things, her job, her life history, etc. I had hunches she may not be what I fit with. Yet, I'm willing to go forward and still had these great feelings as we interacted.

And then the UPDATE: So we are going out this Saturday. She dropped a few hints but I was going to ask anyway so it worked out well. We then proceeded to text for like three hours last night. I wanted to get on the phone but she asked to stay on text so we did. There is your answer KML. I'd rather talk on the phone than text but as SHE later took the conversation rather sexual, I think she was more comfortable typing those things to me than speaking them directly???

And as you might guess, I'm continuing to learn things... and the picture is changing. It would appear I'm correct in that she is not my typical type - and according to her, I'm not her's either. Her BFF since kindergarten said "you were [I was] very welcoming and interesting and nothing I have ever experienced 🤣 so in other words not my normal type. I told her I was going to test it out and see lol. I have a feeling about you that makes me very curious"

I knew she was outgoing, but perhaps didn't' know how much. I'm getting a strong GGW vibe. It sounds like her last love may have been married - an old BF that left her, got married, wanted her back and told her what she wanted to hear - up until his wife became pregnant. I got a clear DTF vibe from her, let's just say that. In fact, she pretty much confirmed it. If she was still married, I'd say she was on a path to WAW or WW. Her BFF actually appears to be headed that way.

Still, I see this whole experience as good. It proves I can still have these feelings. On the bad side, every time I do, they are often for the wrong types as this has happened to me before. Or are all women just like this?????? I do best with the outgoing, fun girls. Problem is, they often don't have the other things I need. I am pretty sure what I was doing is since I really didn't know her, I was making her into what I hoped she was, together with what I know her family to be. Her parents would love to see me with her, that's obvious. But is the reason because I might be a stable, calming influence on their wild daughter? I really have to wonder.

So she has slid a notch on the cruise scale. On the other hand, as long as we are both on the same page, it could be a fun couple of dates or even a fun summer. I won't be falling in love, that's for sure, but that's good too as it's really not what I'm shooting for so it will be safer. When it ends with someone you really see a future with, it's much harder. Plus, I'll be less apt to stop looking at others just because I have one.

Now, before everyone goes off here - about 75% is still my guesses and gut reaction. I still need to confirm much of this. Just as she is not who I thought she may be when we first met a year ago, I may be wrong again now? Who knows? Time will tell and I'm just having fun with it - which it would seem is the exact same thing she is doing.

One last thing, we've talked about those guys on OLD who get sexual rather soon, send naked pics, etc. We've asked why would they do this - with it often turning girls who post here off. Well, could it be because there are girls like this one out there???? Just food for thought.