I would say that sexual intimacy in your current sitch is letting her eat cake. Giving her the benefits of marriage without needing to be committed or faithful to you. I would advise against any sort of sexual activity until legitimate talk of and steps towards reconciliation is on the table.
I disagree with this. I think the DB rule is that it is okay to engage as long as A) there is no PA, and B) that the LBS doesn't expect it to mean anything other than a physical act.
IE, don't endanger your health if she is sleeping with someone else, and have zero expectations or meaning based on it.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
