She initiated a thank you hug tonight, I was surprised, its the first time its happened post BD. I havent let her go but I think I shifted enough in that direction for her to really feel it. A bit of that shift has stuck with me too.

I also feel more detached than ever although its not properly detached. Thanks to this board I have everything I need internally to properly let her go if necessary.

Ive just read the most powerful combination of words on this subject in Sandis reply to overrnbws post
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2795565#Post2795565

They will stay with me throughout this sitch to use if I need to.

Originally Posted By: sandi2
Do you really want to end all this b.s.? Do you want to know the secret of how to get your W back? Do you really? I can tell you in three little words. I don't think you'll do it, but I can tell the secret. Let her go.

LBH 47 WW 47, M 15 T 18
D 11 S 14
BD, I moved out (duped) Jan 18
3 yr EA with ex-H discovered: Feb 18
I moved back in: Aug 18 (against her wishes)
...No R No M/C, continued limbo, dropping the rope!