If you think it's spinning NOW, just wait till you read it, and begin to see the possibilities! Yes, and I have also been thinking it would be good if someone would come up with a study guide for it, with worksheets and stuff. Might help. I do think that the most VALUABLE asset in working through this stuff would be to have a competant therapist familiar with the material to coach you through it. AtlantaDave has such a thing, I don't. I'll have to do my own work.
On that point, Scharch has some SPECIFIC advice about how to find a good therapist. It's in the part on how to know when it's time to divorce and move on. He says that NO therapist can know when it's time for a particular couple to divorce - that decision has to be made by the individuals involved. So... in a first meeting with a therapist, you can ask a question like "Will you be able to tell us if it's not working and we should divorce?" (sorry, I can't come up with a better one at the moment, it was something along those lines, but he had a better one) At any rate, he says that if a therapist will discuss ANY strategy to determine when it's time to divorce, thank them for their time and find another therapist...
