CeMar, the issue isn't non-validated intimacy, but self-validated intimacy. Big difference. Briefly, it means you don't depend on getting your self-image reflected by your SO, you get it from within yourself. True intimacy is only possible in this way. Don't confuse sex with intimacy, or kissing, either. Both are just a path to intimacy, not the fact itself. Intimacy preceeds kissing AND sex. True intimacy comes from accurate self-disclosure, which can ONLY happen when you validate yourself in your own self-image...
