Since the PM discussions keep mentioning that us HD spouses need to forget about validation from the spouse, then what exactly is sex and affection for in this new world with out validation? Should I treat it like a recreational sport, to treat sex as just a fun MEANINGLESS activity for me and the wife? I am having a hard time seeing how sex and/or affection can be treated when you drop all the validation expectations of it. For example, I love my wife therefore I want to kiss and be kissed by her. It is a way of showing love, but if we can no longer use it for validation, then what is kissing for? Just for sheer fun? Since it's only for fun now, can I do it with others?
