Advice for newcomer pre- bomb drop.

[Bern19]

Thanks for the reply's. I just wasn't sure about starting the detachment process since she technically hasn't said that she wants out. Knowing my wife, it could be weeks before she says something. She is a notorious planner. Do I pressure her to talk to see if i can get her to come out and state her intentions? I have no evidence that there is an OM at this point.

As for her video chatting, no it didn't appear to be interactive at all. Lots of scrolling, stopping and starting, volume changes, etc. I've seen enough porn to recognize someone using it.

Did finally get a phone call from her last night. Spent about 30 minutes on the phone just talking about her day, put the kids on speaker for a few minutes. Can't lie, it was good to hear from her & the kids. I did resist the urge to question her lack of communication. It's funny how I think I know what to say and how to act, but when the time comes I have a hard time sticking to the script. Was happy that I did last night.