So, what advice would you give me? Do i continue to bounce along acting normal, taking her out to eat, etc? Or do I get proactive and start to detach? What would you advise someone that is pre bomb drop?
Bern19,
Definitely take the proactive approach. Your wife needs to know with certainty that you're not going to put up with her affair and her bullsh*t. Don't become the wimpy guy that begs her to stay. Let her know that you've got a great life ahead and you're going to live it to the fullest with or without her.
