MWD suggests we look for little positives along the way, I know most people here will caution you to be alert and not fall for these WAS traps and I am sure that is true. But for those of us who want to stand up for the Ms, we need a tad bit of encouragement now and then. So while you dont start expecting any changes soon, enjoy the good feeling and continue doing whatever seems to be working while still remaining detached.
I'm taking it as a very small step for now. He had emailed me earlier about something regarding the house and then seemed surprised when I mentioned later that I took care of it. It's like he's mentioning me taking over house utilities and then gets a little bummed when I follow through and look into them to start to learn more of them. (He took care of all of that before.) It feels like he has a reaction like, "Oh she really CAN take care of herself" and then he clams up and seems a little bummed.
It's like one minute he catches himself starting to smile with me or saying something like old times and then he turns to stone again to fight it. Its hard to explain but I'm thinking others in the same MLC situation have noticed this too.
Together for 13 years, married for 8. H is 46 I'm 40 S is 6 Bombdrop in April 2018 Still in limbo as of 2019
