Great to hear from you! Way to enjoy LA! It can be a fun town. It sounds like it has really helped with your detachment. I hope to follow in your example.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
Dont respond emotionally. Remember you are the strong one here, she is the one in turmoil. I dont know that you need to respond right away at all. If you feel like you do, maybe just acknowledge that you received the message. Her decision is not about you, nor any reflection on your worth - she is doing this for her and her own reasons.
Maybe go out and go for a bike ride, or do some yoga, or get some exercise. Do whatever it takes to clear your mind or at least settle it. Breathe.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
I am breathing though irratically I have a yoga class in a couple hours and dinner plans with friends after that Feeling gutted and I want to reply back but know that in my emotional state that would not be good I am going to buy some cigarettes right now ugh
M 40 W 34 Together 7 Married 2 No Kids BD 1/18 need space Moved out 2/18 ILYBNILWY & Asked for D 3/18 W filed for D 6/18 D final 10/18
So I called wife to talk about what I needed to do about signing etc Talked for about 10 mins about what I have been up to in LA We both made some jokes super mellow and pleasant I said I had to go to get to yoga Pretty easy to be chipper when I am out here Didnt freak out at all didnt plead didnt say ILY just moved on with my life I did say that well this [censored] but let me know what I need to do Makes the whole idea of moving alot easier
M 40 W 34 Together 7 Married 2 No Kids BD 1/18 need space Moved out 2/18 ILYBNILWY & Asked for D 3/18 W filed for D 6/18 D final 10/18
Well last night was really hard I really started to doubt myself I guess I am back on here for awhile You all help to give me strength Would love some advice on never giving up
M 40 W 34 Together 7 Married 2 No Kids BD 1/18 need space Moved out 2/18 ILYBNILWY & Asked for D 3/18 W filed for D 6/18 D final 10/18
You are stronger than you can possibly imagine. Remember to tell yourself that. Affirm yourself.
You are less than 6 months into this process, it can last a long time. Divorce is just a piece of paper. The MR died in January when she gave you the BD. The piece of paper only changes the situation if you want it to. No matter what if you were looking to R, you were going to have to build a new MR.
When you are feeling down, read about the success stories on here, the threads I turn to constantly are Benitos
And most of all - focus on yourself. Find what makes you happy. You are out in LA - explore the city, go to the beach, find cool places to hang out, do yoga, go hiking up in Griffith Park. Do you.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
