Chris, I am not sure if you are still asking if there is someone else or not, but if you are stop. Either she is lying or she is not, but either way putting pressure on her at this point is probably not helpful. Don't ask about the relationship or the future or anything like that, because she doesn't see any future right now with you.
It sounds like, given your work schedule you were really distant and not available for your wife for a long time. Would it be a 180 to be available now? When she contacts you are you upbeat and friendly? The LTR is not about cutting off all contact, especially if you have kids. You need to communicate about them. It is about stopping pursuit and pressure. Dont initiate contact unless you need to for the kids or something else urgent. Dont respond immediately to everything, but when you do respond be friendly and upbeat - treat her like a friendly cashier in the store (I think that is the metaphor I read here.)
But the biggest thing is detaching and getting a life (GAL). Read and reread the detachment thread at the top of this page. I print it out and highlighted the important elements for me. And GALing and taking care of yourself (and your kids) is super important. Find what makes you happy, or at least distracts you, outside of the MR. Go to the gym, hang out with friends, work on your car, take walks, do yoga. Find whatever works for you.
This really s@cks, I know. But you are not alone. When in doubt, come here to vent or ask questions or just look for support.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
