WAW - managing limbo period

[40free]

Thanks Cadet. All good. I'll keep posting and take a look at the book as you suggest.

It's not an easy time, and like everyone on the site, I experience better and worse days. No matter how much I think I have my head together and detach, I am still only 6 or 7 weeks post BD, I am still living with my wife pretending nothing has changed for the kids benefit whilst she decides whether to stay or go. I still see her every day, and so do have moments when I think I would still love to work things out. I have momentary lapses as we co-parent our children and are acting normal and I forget we are both pretending, just for a moment. I know I shouldn't let myself get sucked in, but its tough.

I still snoop and know that although she is going through the motions of seeing IC, she is also planning her independent life. And its a reminder that I should just stick to the plan - LRT/detach, GAL... I know the drill. Just need to keep focused. If she comes to her senses, great. If not, I'm a better person for having gone through these emotions and made changes for myself.

That's all for now. Would love to hear from anyone who has had similar experiences in limbo - it's so difficult and really can't go on much longer. I hope...