If S3 is often asking you why you are sad, then you may need to try harder to put on your happy face around him. If he sees you smiling and uplifted when Mommy comes to take him home, yet you are sad when he's around, he could misunderstand and think he is the problem. It is really tough to put on a happy face for our kids when our heart is breaking, but we can be our strongest and best selfs for them.
2nd this. I had been letting my moods show around my S3 far too much and his attitude and temperament definitely reflected that. Lately he has been asking in a cheerful voice "Dada, are you HAPPY?!" and i can honestly and gleefully tell him "Yes Dada IS happy" it is amazing how much mirroring they do. Having S3 angry and throwing tantrums all the time, when i was already stressed and mentally exhausted was really hard. Its amazing how if you let up on yourself you see positive changes in them.
Good Luck Black
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
