WAW help!!!

[kiro]

If you do the tlr, in my opinion, it's not necessarily about not communicating. It's about not communicating when you're doing it to connect with her because she will sense that. I used to do it all the time, and I would convince myself that it was because of the kids, the house, finances, or whatever. But in reality, all I wanted was to communicate with her because I missed her and because I wanted to know what she was up to. When I realized that, I just stopped communicating with her and all these other things didn't collapse. My situation is different and my kids are older, so it's easier. But my point is that it's ok to communicate about the kids and other things when they are really essential. Just be careful when these things are not the real reason (you'll need to be honest with yourself).