STH, I think you are missing a potential opportunity here to shake her from her fantasy fog. My W wanted a quickie, no lawyer, even filing online (yes there are websites claiming they can make it that simple) D. I wanted to know how to proceed legally with documenting some of her behaviors just in case, and contacted a lawyer. When she found out about that I could almost literally see that part of her fantasy bubble burst. I also said that I would be filing due to infidelity on her part (not really a thing anymore in our state, but still something I would be stating to people when they asked what happened).
That was one of the first moments I really saw her questioning her proclamation on BD other than moments of regret about what it meant for everyone including extended family. Her grandmother had just went on about how much she loved me at Christmas time and that pulled at my wife's heart strings.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
